The thin line between teasing and bullying

Hey Guys!

I am sure all of you have experienced teasing. You know small little jokes on someoneelses dispense, normally a close friend. I’m sure that there are people in your social circles who like to “wreck” other people with insults. This is all fun and games, until it’s not. I think this is a big problem with bullying, because a lot of times the thin line between teasing and bullying is crossed. Yet the bully, who is a friend, family member or classmate, doesn’t notice.

As always I have a story to this. A couple of years ago me and a boy in my class developed a “wrecking” relationship. Really it was him being mean to me and pranking me. I didn’t mind, because I didn’t care about his opinion anyway and the pranks were harmless. This year a few other boys joined in and as much as it still didn’t bother me, it started to get annoying.

Last week, however, it got out of hand. I stated to my class that it was my birthday in less than a month, in my weird,quirky, childish ways and one of the boys turned around and said the words “Go kill yourself”. He meant it completely as a joke, as he always does ( I’ve known him for many years and I know he would never want that). I ignored it, being completely used to it, and carried on with my day. Later on however, one of my best Friends asked me why I tolerate bullying.

This was the first time I looked at it that way and I realised this really does count as bullying. The boys had crossed the fine line between bullying and teasing. So after school I asked him if he was aware of that and he was not. For him this was all a joke. Nothing more than a tease to get a girl’s attention.

Please always watch out for the fine line between bullying and teasing, especially if you are teasing somebody else. You never know what they are going to find offensive!

Leave your opinion in the comments below!

xoxo

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Fitting in

Hey Guys!

Do you ever get the feeling you try so hard fitting in that you change yourself? Yeah I do, CONSTANTLY.

The last couple of years, I had the privilege of being in a small class. This meant that even though I was a year younger than everybody else (skipped a grade), I never noticed. However, starting this school year, the whole year got mixed through and we got a bunch of new people. Suddenly all the parties started. It was normal for my classmates to go out drinking in the park on a Friday evening and getting completely wasted at a House-party on Saturday evenings. This was a clear shock for me, because I had never attended proper Parties before, due to our class being so small. I went along, wanting to fit in, drinking, going to parties and smoking (only once- worst experience ever, please don’t smoke). For a couple of weeks I was considered “cool”. I started hanging out only with the popular people, totally forgetting about my old Friends.

One evening however, I went down to the most popular Girls party. She had invited pretty much everyone from our year ,and the year above, and it was held in a park, as it was still quite warm. Beforehand my Best Friend, whom I hadn’t been talking to as much as I should do, came to my house to hang out. She had never received a proper invite to the party, however she had been invited verbally a couple of days earlier, by the host. We came to the park, where the party was held and where told to our faces, that we weren’t invited and that we should leave. I went home that evening devastated.

In school all my “friends” started hanging out with people from the year above and I didn’t know what to say anymore, if I joined them. I felt awkward and extremely self conscious. I didn’t make out with five guys over the weekend or got extremely drunk, so I had no story to tell.

So I kinda stepped back and started hanging with other people. People who are considered “uncool” ¬†and I never feel out of place with them. They never make me feel self conscious about myself and as much as it hurt not to get invited to parties, or being considered cool, it was a far to big price to pay, losing who I am and my morals (I smoked ffs!).

I hope you enjoyed my version of any american HIgh school movie hahaha. But no seriously ,sadly this actually happened.

Please remember to always surround yourself with People who you can be 100% yourself with and as cheesy as it sounds it is so so important!

Thanks for reading and leave a comment to your Thoughts about this! (I would love to read them!)

xxx