The thin line between teasing and bullying

Hey Guys!

I am sure all of you have experienced teasing. You know small little jokes on someoneelses dispense, normally a close friend. I’m sure that there are people in your social circles who like to “wreck” other people with insults. This is all fun and games, until it’s not. I think this is a big problem with bullying, because a lot of times the thin line between teasing and bullying is crossed. Yet the bully, who is a friend, family member or classmate, doesn’t notice.

As always I have a story to this. A couple of years ago me and a boy in my class developed a “wrecking” relationship. Really it was him being mean to me and pranking me. I didn’t mind, because I didn’t care about his opinion anyway and the pranks were harmless. This year a few other boys joined in and as much as it still didn’t bother me, it started to get annoying.

Last week, however, it got out of hand. I stated to my class that it was my birthday in less than a month, in my weird,quirky, childish ways and one of the boys turned around and said the words “Go kill yourself”. He meant it completely as a joke, as he always does ( I’ve known him for many years and I know he would never want that). I ignored it, being completely used to it, and carried on with my day. Later on however, one of my best Friends asked me why I tolerate bullying.

This was the first time I looked at it that way and I realised this really does count as bullying. The boys had crossed the fine line between bullying and teasing. So after school I asked him if he was aware of that and he was not. For him this was all a joke. Nothing more than a tease to get a girl’s attention.

Please always watch out for the fine line between bullying and teasing, especially if you are teasing somebody else. You never know what they are going to find offensive!

Leave your opinion in the comments below!

xoxo

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Fitting in

Hey Guys!

Do you ever get the feeling you try so hard fitting in that you change yourself? Yeah I do, CONSTANTLY.

The last couple of years, I had the privilege of being in a small class. This meant that even though I was a year younger than everybody else (skipped a grade), I never noticed. However, starting this school year, the whole year got mixed through and we got a bunch of new people. Suddenly all the parties started. It was normal for my classmates to go out drinking in the park on a Friday evening and getting completely wasted at a House-party on Saturday evenings. This was a clear shock for me, because I had never attended proper Parties before, due to our class being so small. I went along, wanting to fit in, drinking, going to parties and smoking (only once- worst experience ever, please don’t smoke). For a couple of weeks I was considered “cool”. I started hanging out only with the popular people, totally forgetting about my old Friends.

One evening however, I went down to the most popular Girls party. She had invited pretty much everyone from our year ,and the year above, and it was held in a park, as it was still quite warm. Beforehand my Best Friend, whom I hadn’t been talking to as much as I should do, came to my house to hang out. She had never received a proper invite to the party, however she had been invited verbally a couple of days earlier, by the host. We came to the park, where the party was held and where told to our faces, that we weren’t invited and that we should leave. I went home that evening devastated.

In school all my “friends” started hanging out with people from the year above and I didn’t know what to say anymore, if I joined them. I felt awkward and extremely self conscious. I didn’t make out with five guys over the weekend or got extremely drunk, so I had no story to tell.

So I kinda stepped back and started hanging with other people. People who are considered “uncool”  and I never feel out of place with them. They never make me feel self conscious about myself and as much as it hurt not to get invited to parties, or being considered cool, it was a far to big price to pay, losing who I am and my morals (I smoked ffs!).

I hope you enjoyed my version of any american HIgh school movie hahaha. But no seriously ,sadly this actually happened.

Please remember to always surround yourself with People who you can be 100% yourself with and as cheesy as it sounds it is so so important!

Thanks for reading and leave a comment to your Thoughts about this! (I would love to read them!)

xxx

 

What we do to feel special?

Hey there! First off thanks for checking out my blog 🙂 I really appreciate it.

I have matured a lot over the last 4 years and I recognise things insecure girls do repeatedly to make them self feel special. I personally struggle with insecurities myself, as everyone does, but there comes a point in the mornings where i am so fed up with getting ready, that I just don’t care anymore. Lazy people am I right?😂

  1. Well the first thing you can always find in every class is a Queen B. You know the girl that EVERYONE wants to be friends with? Yes we all have been there. The secret here is that these “Queen Bs” are nothing without their supporters and admirers. I had a girl like that in primary school and now looking back on it I wish that I hadn’t been so concentrated on her, because I had a best friend next to me fighting for her attention too. We both took each other for granted and now nearly 500 miles apart we both regret it deeply. So please if you are struggling with such a situation, stop fighting to be her friend and hang out with other people, because at the end of the day she is going to stay loyal to you, whilst the popular girl is going to leave you.
  2. That brings me to another point, the clubs. The feeling special about being part of something. Well it is a pretty cruel thing to do and also kinda on 4th grade level. In my class there are 7 girls, 5 of those have a club organising sleepovers etc. etc. Yes, this is 10th grade. No I couldn’t believe it either. Yes it was hurtful, mostly because I get along with most of these girls pretty well. Its sickening and immature to exclude people like that.

Please let me know if you are struggling with the same issues and if you are, ignore them you are better than them. They have more insecurities than you and they need this ,which is pretty sad.

xxxx

Feeling left out

Sorry I haven’t posted in a while, but I just went one a Schooltrip to Rome 🙂 I went with a very close friend of mine and we had actually planned to do a lot together. Right at the airport I could notice her hanging out a lot with this boy, whom she tends to text with a lot. Did not think much of it, until we got to into th plane and they starting laughing about inside jokes, stuff I didn’t know  etc. etc. I suddenly felt really left out. End of the story they did this for 4 whole days.

I am sure a few of you can relate to this,not just with a boy girl relationship, but also with a group of 3 best friends or in a lot of other scenarios.

I just want to say I know it hurts that they do not want to spend time with you, but if that is the case then they are really not worth your time. Go hang out with other people and find new friends ,friends who want to hang out with you and appreciate you.

Believe me I have had several of these situations and have learnt the hard way.

Thankyou for your comments on the last posts, you don’t know how happy they make me 😊

xxx

 

Don’t even think about it

OK this is a random favourite of mine, but I can definitely recommend it. It’s a  book about several teenager who suddenly get the ability to read each others minds. The funny and entertaining book by Sarah Mlynowski is getting a sequel in a few days, which I cannot wait to read!

I would definitely check it out!

 

 

Moving to a big city

Ok I know I am doing a series right now on Books, but if you do not enjoy reading as much this might be a post you will enjoy.

First off let me explain. 4 years ago I moved from a small town in Germany to London. From 5000 people to more than 8.5 million people is a big change. The last time I lived in London I was only a Baby, so for me I was a town girl. So if you are going through a similar process here are a few tips.

  1. Stay away from the tourist attractions: Basically moving to a bigger city, which is potentially full of tourists can be very annoying. My best tip is to just stay away from the main attractions. London for instance has so much more to offer and if you live locally take time to explore the places that tourists don’t completely swarm . Check out the tourists attractions at times you know it’s not going to be too full.
  2. Make your house and flat yours: Style it as much as possible like you want it. Add little things that make you feel safe and make you feel at home, because if the surrounding is not familiar make sure your home is a place where you feel at home.
  3. Make Friends: I think this is an obvious one , but it’s equally important. With Friends the city will not feel as lonely and they can also show you super locations etc.
  4. Keep in contact with your Friends at home: Skype and Facetime are great for these purposes, so if you feel a bit lonely or homesick just chat with a Friend!

I hope this helps you!

xx

The Mortal Instruments, the Infernal Devices and the Dark Artifices

Ok, if you are not familiar with this series, I can recommend checking it out.

Basically it is about a girl named Clary Fray who finds out she is not a normal human. I’ll leave it at that, just in case you have not read it I do not want to spoil anything!

The series has 6 books and  my favourite was definitely the last one.

I found the 3rd book a bit hard to get through, but believe me the plot starts getting better  in the 4th book.

Also the author Cassandra Clare  wrote 2 new series based in the same world and with characters appearing from the original series. They are called the Infernal Devices and the Dark Artifices

One of the series is based in London in the 18th century and the other one in LA. The LA based series plays after the original series. 

My personal favourite is the Infernal Devices.

I just finished the first book in the Dark Artifices series and I am dying to read the next one, which comes out in 2017😒.

If you want me to do a more detailed review on all of these books (maybe for people who have read them so I don’t spoil anything) let me know in the comment section! I would love to have a discussion and hear your opinions on all three series!

 

 

Book review series for Teenage Girls

OK my first post is going to be a book review

I think over the next week or so I am going to be posting a Book or series every day that I can recommend.

First off my taste in books is at the moment mostly ‘young adult fantasy novels’ (thanks wikipedia😂) and general teenage girl books. I am absolute wimp when it comes to movies, so I haven’t watched many of the movie versions of these books (if there are any).

Check out my next post for the first book review and please leave comments about books you enjoyed and I’ll check them out!

Blog

Hello!

This is my first blog post and if you are reading this I want to say thanks for checking my blog out!

Im not quite sure where this blog is going to go, but for now lets just say I’m going to write about things that interest me, things I find important and maybe a few book reviews……:)

Well lets just run down the basics about me again! I’m a 14 year old girl and I live in London. I enjoy dancing and reading and sometimes I’ll go for a run 🙂 (lazy teens i get you ;))

I am half german, but not going to lie my german is terrible😂

I hope I can write relatable blog posts for you, about London, life etc.

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